Femdom Humiliation and Femdom Humiliation Stories

Femdom humiliation, or female domination humiliation, means the use of humiliation as a sexual tool that is agreed upon by both partners, where the female humiliates and the male gains sexual enjoyment from the process of being embarrassed and treated in a demeaning manner.

Humiliation in femdom can take on many different forms, including physical humiliation or verbal humiliation.

If you want to verbally humiliate a submissive, call him pet, boy, slave, bitch, tart, slut, fag, whore, or some other humiliating nickname. You can also insult him with verbal abuse such as telling him he’s ugly, worthless, fat or stupid.

You can also humiliate him by making fun of his body or personality. Criticizing his genitals, ass, face or size or making fun of his walk, voice, or hygiene are all methods of verbal humiliation.

Force him to ask your permission to do things he has to do on a normal basis, like going to the bathroom, spending money or eating and drinking.

Mock his penis and tell him it’s undersized and unable to please you. Ridicule and mock him in every way you can imagine.

Physical ways to humiliate the male submissive include urinating or defecating on his body or face, forcing him to perform menial tasks like housework, generating rules that he must follow like lighting your cigarette, walking behind you, speaking only when you allow him to, making him kneel, making him eat after you, making him sleep on the floor, etc.

Clothing can also be a form of humiliation, including making him cross dress, forcing him to wear a costume, or making him wear sexual garments such as chastity belts. You can also make him wear a sign of your ownership such as a dog collar, or treat him as a sexual object.

Most sexual humiliation in the context of femdom does not involve actual pain, but is more concerned with making the submissive male the object of ridicule and shame.

One of the lesser-known BDSM practices is the idea of using your slave as a human toilet, i.e. urinating or defecating on him in order to humiliate him. This is frequently done in his mouth or on his face. Consumption of feces or urine sometimes occurs, although you need to be aware of the health risks involved.

Feces is made up of the following: 75% is water, and of the remaining 25%, 1/3 of it is dead bacteria, and another third is undigested food products. There can certainly be live bacteria in feces that will pose a risk to both parties, however.

Although psychology recognizes the existence of urine and feces fetishes (the former is known as urophilia, undinism or urolagnia, while the latter is called coprophilia), there is no real answer as to what causes them.

In the femdom world, a urine fetish is known as watersports, and the main purpose of it is humiliating the slave. Pressuring him to consume your urine is another method of asserting your dominance over him.

In femdom, a feces fetish is known as scat play. A very few couples also practice coprophagia, which means eating feces. This activity is physically dangerous because of the possibility of getting a serious infection from live bacteria. Eating your own feces is safer than eating a partner’s feces, but it is still dangerous. Ingesting feces can lead to such health problems as parasitic infections like amebiasis, campylobater, cryptosporidiosis, giardiasis, and higellosis, or even viral hepatitis. If your immune system is compromised, scat play should be avoided as much as possible because it can be seriously harmful to your health.

There are porn videos available that illustrate watersports or scat play, and this may be a safer way of indulging in the practice.

This week I spent a lot of time in an e-mail exchange with a Domme friend I’ll call Hunter on the subject of Femdom relationships. In the course of this exchange my friend sent me the photos that are illustrating this post.

Hunter is always very nice to me, and she encourages me in my pursuit of finding a Domina who deserves me and whose desires are compatible with mine. She’s aware of some of my recent failures, including one who ignores me, one who seems only interested in money, and the fact that I have so far been unable to find an owner to be collared by.

In the course of this discussion Hunter commented that she only knows of four Femdom couples who are in permanent, committed romantic relationships that are happy and mutually satisfying. In fact, Hunter admitted that she herself has never been in one long-term. She wasn’t exactly trying to stop me from pursuing such a relationship, but she did indicate her opinion that finding one was a kind of impossible dream.

As it so happens, while I was thinking about this I got an instant message from a submissive male who has recently married a new Domina. They’re from the Bay Area of California and are looking for a community of like-minded Femdom couples.

I mentioned two friends I know from the area who are experienced dominas that could teach his wife how to be a great mistress. Tina, one of my old friends from IRC, is a Domme with a lot of experience and I think she would make a great guide to the Femdom lifestyle.

When I thought about Tina and the message from my reader, I decided I don’t agree with Hunter that long-term Femdom relationships that are mutually satisfying are not possible. There could be many such couples out there who aren’t into public displays. They might avoid BDSM parties and just enjoy their activities in the privacy of their own home.

I believe that there must be many Femdom couples in a long lasting relationship or marriage that are not visible publicly because their activity is sacred to them. Hunter may disagree, but it won’t ruin our friendship. Maybe I’m just a romantic, but I receive many comments that indicate that Femdom couples are much more prevalent in private than you’d be led to expect based on online activity or visiting dungeons.

If you’re thinking about engaging a professional mistress’s services, first you must ask yourself what you hope to get out of the experience. If you’re just looking to be dominated, that’s one thing, but if you’re also hoping for sex, you need to keep in mind that sex for money is prostitution, which is illegal almost everywhere.

However, if you want to be tied up, shocked, suspended, encased, lashed, or humiliated, or if you want to have a role-playing session or pretend to be a baby, you should write down all of your desires for easier communication.
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Also make a list of your fetishes, such as redheads, stiletto heels, PVC or leather, and fantasies such as doctors, schoolmarms or prison guards. It’s helpful to write down what’s a must for you, what you can do without, and what you absolutely do not want.

When you’re planning this adventure you have to keep in mind how much experience you have as well. Be honest with your mistress. If it’s your first time, pick a mistress with a good reputation who can calm down newbies, provide references and possible has reviews on her site from clients.

Be specific with her about your experience. If you’re experienced in BDSM in general but are trying some new facet of it out, explain that to her clearly as well.

It’s especially important to put down your boundaries—the things you absolutely want to avoid. For example, if marks or bruises will cause you trouble at work or at home, you have to tell the mistress this. Also, if you bruise easily or have medical problems that might impinge on your session, she needs to know this as well.

It’s likely that she’ll ask you to fill out a medical form that will ask you to give details on your sexual life, health in general and psychological well being. She may ask you if you have arthritis, asthma, panic attacks, replacement joints or metal implants, heart problems, a pacemaker, diabetes, epilepsy or cancer. She’ll also want to know what medications you’re on and if you have any phobias or allergies. These things don’t mean you can’t have a great femdom experience, it just means that your mistress needs to plan around them. The most important things to notify her of are asthma, diabetes or severe allergies that require epi-pens.

When choosing a mistress, keep in mind what your desires are regarding looks, temperament, voice and costume. You can find many different styles of dominatrixes, from mother-like figures to intimidating warriors. Her age, her experience level and the areas she specializes in will also help you make your choice.

Factor in cost as well by deciding how much you’re willing to spend, including travel to and from her place of business, club membership fees if necessary, and whether or not you need to rent a room if she doesn’t include it in the price.

Decide if you want to be nearby to cut down on travel costs or want to be far away to avoid being seen. If you’re driving, you need to inquire about parking, and if you’re taking public transportation, you’ll have to see how far away that is as well.

Use these tips for picking out a professional mistress and you’re guaranteed of having a satisfying session and enjoying yourself.

Bettie Page may be gone but she’ll never be forgotten.  Her mischievous smile and glossy black hair are recognized even by people who know nothing about the femdom scene.  She wasn’t just a pinup model, she was a goddess.  For years she dominated her niche of the modeling scene, and when she disappeared abruptly and mysteriously, she turned into an obsession for thousands of fanatics.

One of the reasons Bettie was so extraordinary was that she was a study in paradox.  Every picture of her exudes charm and attitude, but the attitude changed on a dime.  She could do sweet or sexy, bashful or bold, girl-next-door or exotic, and make each one of them look like something you’d never seen before.  Bettie shunned elaborate staging of her photos.  Her own assets (striking coloring, gorgeous skin and a body to die for) brought out the best in every photographer she posed for.

In the eighties and nineties Bettie was rediscovered as the media became bewitched by her irresistible glamour.  Books were written about her, her face became an icon of modern art, and thousands of people speculated about her disappearance.  Bettie Page lived most of the later part of her life in relative obscurity, unaware of the public’s appetite for her, but by 1999 she became aware of her status as a cult figure and was able to enjoy some of it before she passed away in 2008.  Bettie Page, thanks for the memories.

The Carrara Belt Is Finally Here!

By the time the Carrara Belt finally came I was dying with anticipation.  The second it was dropped off we had to open in.  The belt feels like it weighs around 10 pounds, which is heavy if you’re wearing it around your waist.  The front of it is tight-fitting solid metal, and the inside is lined in foam.

When my slave first tried it on we couldn’t get it to stay locked, which seemed like a problem, but eventually I figured out how to snap it into place and it was very secure.  He tried to wriggle it off but it was totally impossible, and that day I forced him to wear it for around three hours.  He said it was more comfortable than he had expected it to be, although it chafed at the crotch and the waist.  This toy promises to be really fun when we get used to it.  It makes me power-hungry because whenever I want to I can prevent him from seeing and touching his penis.

The Carrara belt has several different attachments you can buy.  I ordered a locking metal ass plate and an attachable dildo.  Below are some pictures of the belt and its attachments.

As you can see, this is one of the most secure belts out there.  It may be too much for some people, but if you’re into chastity belts and want to be 100% sure it won’t come off, the Carrara belt will thrill you.  My slave can’t wear this belt 24 hours a day, but we recently figured out a way to make the CB3000 more secure, so now we can switch on and off.

After we’ve tried it out more extensively I’ll post how it’s going.  This belt may be too extreme for some people but hey, I’m an extreme kind of bitch.  Share your comments on the pictures and let me know your opinions whether they’re positive or negative.

Women in Power

Women are in power in politics all over the world today, although some countries like the US still have a way to go in terms of female supremacy, since we’ve yet to elect a female president. Following are some facts on women in leadership around the world.

Countries with Women Leaders

It can be hard to compile a list of nations with female leaders because different countries use different titles for them. The United Kingdom, Denmark and the Netherlands are three countries who currently have ruling queens (the only possible route for women to reign over nations in ancient times), but while these queens are revered by their people, they’re more symbolic than anything in modern times.

However, if you’re looking for women in real leadership roles, eight countries in the world currently are ruled by female presidents: India, Argentina, Chile, Ireland, the Phillippines, Finland, Liberia and San Marino.

An additional nine countries currently have female prime ministers. Germany, Israel, Haiti, the Ukraine, Moldova, the Netherlands Antilles, Mozambique, and the Åland Islands all have women at their head, and Iceland recently appointed Johanna Sigurdardottir as their new prime minister after their government collapsed in January 2009.

A Modern History of Women in Government

The first women serving in government in modern times occurred after World War I when women became ministers of revolutionary governments in Ireland, Hungary, Russia and the Ukraine. The first woman ever to be elected minister in a democratic parliamentary-style government was Nina Bang, the Danish Minister of Education, who served from 1924-1926.

These women all served in positions that were similar to cabinet positions, however. To find true female supremacy you have to fast-forward to 1960, when Sri Lanka elected the worlds’ first female Premier Minister (Sirivamo Bandaranaike). The first woman to carry the title president was Isabel Perón, who was the wife of the sitting president of Argentina and was appointed when he died. (This is still a legitimate route to the position today.)

More Statistics about Women in Power

The US is lagging behind the rest of the world in female supremacy in some ways. Women have made great strides in other areas. According to the United Nations, there are more women holding positions of power in the government today than ever before. Still, the rate is only 18.4%, so there’s room for improvement.

Two countries to be commended are Finland, where 60% of people holding government positions are women, and Sweden, which became the first country to have more female ministers than men in 1999.

Special mention must be made of Rwanda, which is the first country in the world to have a majority of women in their parliament (56%, including the speaker). One third of the cabinet positions are also held by women in Rwanda, including Supreme Court chief, education minister, foreign minister and police commissioner general.

In fact, there are only two countries in the world who have never had a woman in government on the sub-minister level or higher: Saudi Arabia and Monaco.