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If you’re thinking about engaging a professional mistress’s services, first you must ask yourself what you hope to get out of the experience. If you’re just looking to be dominated, that’s one thing, but if you’re also hoping for sex, you need to keep in mind that sex for money is prostitution, which is illegal almost everywhere.

However, if you want to be tied up, shocked, suspended, encased, lashed, or humiliated, or if you want to have a role-playing session or pretend to be a baby, you should write down all of your desires for easier communication.
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Also make a list of your fetishes, such as redheads, stiletto heels, PVC or leather, and fantasies such as doctors, schoolmarms or prison guards. It’s helpful to write down what’s a must for you, what you can do without, and what you absolutely do not want.

When you’re planning this adventure you have to keep in mind how much experience you have as well. Be honest with your mistress. If it’s your first time, pick a mistress with a good reputation who can calm down newbies, provide references and possible has reviews on her site from clients.

Be specific with her about your experience. If you’re experienced in BDSM in general but are trying some new facet of it out, explain that to her clearly as well.

It’s especially important to put down your boundaries—the things you absolutely want to avoid. For example, if marks or bruises will cause you trouble at work or at home, you have to tell the mistress this. Also, if you bruise easily or have medical problems that might impinge on your session, she needs to know this as well.

It’s likely that she’ll ask you to fill out a medical form that will ask you to give details on your sexual life, health in general and psychological well being. She may ask you if you have arthritis, asthma, panic attacks, replacement joints or metal implants, heart problems, a pacemaker, diabetes, epilepsy or cancer. She’ll also want to know what medications you’re on and if you have any phobias or allergies. These things don’t mean you can’t have a great femdom experience, it just means that your mistress needs to plan around them. The most important things to notify her of are asthma, diabetes or severe allergies that require epi-pens.

When choosing a mistress, keep in mind what your desires are regarding looks, temperament, voice and costume. You can find many different styles of dominatrixes, from mother-like figures to intimidating warriors. Her age, her experience level and the areas she specializes in will also help you make your choice.

Factor in cost as well by deciding how much you’re willing to spend, including travel to and from her place of business, club membership fees if necessary, and whether or not you need to rent a room if she doesn’t include it in the price.

Decide if you want to be nearby to cut down on travel costs or want to be far away to avoid being seen. If you’re driving, you need to inquire about parking, and if you’re taking public transportation, you’ll have to see how far away that is as well.

Use these tips for picking out a professional mistress and you’re guaranteed of having a satisfying session and enjoying yourself.