This week I spent a lot of time in an e-mail exchange with a Domme friend I’ll call Hunter on the subject of Femdom relationships. In the course of this exchange my friend sent me the photos that are illustrating this post.

Hunter is always very nice to me, and she encourages me in my pursuit of finding a Domina who deserves me and whose desires are compatible with mine. She’s aware of some of my recent failures, including one who ignores me, one who seems only interested in money, and the fact that I have so far been unable to find an owner to be collared by.

In the course of this discussion Hunter commented that she only knows of four Femdom couples who are in permanent, committed romantic relationships that are happy and mutually satisfying. In fact, Hunter admitted that she herself has never been in one long-term. She wasn’t exactly trying to stop me from pursuing such a relationship, but she did indicate her opinion that finding one was a kind of impossible dream.

As it so happens, while I was thinking about this I got an instant message from a submissive male who has recently married a new Domina. They’re from the Bay Area of California and are looking for a community of like-minded Femdom couples.

I mentioned two friends I know from the area who are experienced dominas that could teach his wife how to be a great mistress. Tina, one of my old friends from IRC, is a Domme with a lot of experience and I think she would make a great guide to the Femdom lifestyle.

When I thought about Tina and the message from my reader, I decided I don’t agree with Hunter that long-term Femdom relationships that are mutually satisfying are not possible. There could be many such couples out there who aren’t into public displays. They might avoid BDSM parties and just enjoy their activities in the privacy of their own home.

I believe that there must be many Femdom couples in a long lasting relationship or marriage that are not visible publicly because their activity is sacred to them. Hunter may disagree, but it won’t ruin our friendship. Maybe I’m just a romantic, but I receive many comments that indicate that Femdom couples are much more prevalent in private than you’d be led to expect based on online activity or visiting dungeons.